This Isn’t Self-Help. It’s a Soft Rebellion.
Infrastructure: How Burned-Out Women Are Using AI to Quietly Exit the System
This essay is part of the Infrastructure series. Send it to the friend you’ve been talking to about that uneasy feeling…the one you can’t quite name but know is real.
Preparation Looks Different When You’ve Already Survived the Collapse
I’ve been following Dan Koe for years now. His work is sharp. Thoughtful. Strategic.
He’s doing what I want to be doing…creating leverage, writing from clarity, building a business from taste and intention. And I admire it.
But I’m not a 20-something man who moved to Mexico after a breakup with a Twitter friend and a dream. I’m a Gen X woman who walked away from corporate burnout, economic precarity, and the invisible grief of being useful but not seen. And I didn’t come here to optimize. I came here to rebuild. Not for speed. Not for scale.
For something sacred.
The Lie of Self-Help, the Truth of Soft Rebellion
My work isn’t about monetizing hacks or pretending community can form in 30-second reels. It’s about working with women who’ve been overlooked and underestimated for so long, they started believing they had to earn joy through exhaustion.
The longer I studied Dan Koe, Alex Hormozi, Brene Brown, Simon Sinek, the more I realized that for Gen X women, the transformation AI offers isn’t business. It’s spiritual. It’s reclamation.
Reclaiming energy
Reclaiming joy
Reclaiming the space to ask: What do I want now that I finally get to ask?
Because preparation in this era isn’t about waking up two hours early. It’s about knowing why you’re tired and refusing to keep proving your worth through productivity.
It’s Easy to Talk About Leverage When No One’s Depending on You
It’s easy to write ten newsletters a week when you don’t have three side hustles and a kid who needs an inhaler and a ride to orchestra. It’s easy to call yourself “high agency” when your entire life hasn’t been bent around someone else’s needs.
But for women like us? We don’t just carry labor, we carry legacies. And we do it while the systems pretend we’re invisible. So no, I’m not here to shame anyone for “making it.”
I’m here to tell the rest of us: you didn’t miss it. You were carrying it.
What Comes Next Isn’t a Brand. It’s a Blueprint.
This isn’t girls gone wild with ChatGPT. This isn’t selling planners on Instagram. This is quiet preparation for a new way of living, working, and earning on our terms.
Because while the loudest people online are still talking scale, I’m talking to the woman who’s never been allowed to rest. She doesn’t need a funnel. She needs a full night’s sleep. She needs one quiet room where she can finally hear her own voice again.
And when she finds it?
She’ll build something no man could’ve imagined. Something small. Something sovereign.
Something that saves her life.
I Don’t Teach AI for Automation.
I Teach AI for Freedom. The kind we were never handed. Because this isn’t self-help. It’s a soft rebellion. And Gen X women? We were made for it.
Hi, I’m Sundee. I write at the edge where Gen X women and the world collide.
Sometimes it’s scripted. Sometimes it’s a wild tangent. But every word, every build, every rebellion is about the same thing—claiming a life they told us we couldn’t have.
On Time. On Purpose. On My Own Terms.